love is not 'i need', 'i want', 'i miss'.

love is not 'we need to have sex'.

love is not fucking and exchanging 'i love you's after words.

love is not 'we are exactly the same,'.

love is does not happen at first sight.

love is not 'i need to look good for him to love me'.

love is not 'he cheated on me but he will change'.

love is not 'happily ever after'.

love is not 'he's hot'.

love is not 'we never fight,'

love is not 'we fight all the time,'

love is not 'he makes me feel good,'

love is not a ring.


love is hope, dying flowers, exploding stars and dreams.

love is a baby, a promise.

love is trust.


rule one:
people NEVER change.
they physically can't.

rule two:
love cannot be completely understood until it is misplaced.
and it doesn't always work out for it to be misplaced once.

rule three:
soul mates, if they do exist, are opposites.
not totally, but in most ways. but you have to have somethings in common for there to be a relationship.

rule four:
people LIE.
get that through your pretty little heads. but keep in mind that trust is the biggest part of love.

rule five:
love has little to nothing to do with a compatible relationship.
trust, attraction, willingness to give things up, willingness to work things out, and willingness to see flaws are the main components of a relationship.

rule six:
once you have a child, you CANNOT, not matter what, get a divorce, because once you have a child, its not about you anymore, its about that child, and you HAVE to choose someone who realizes this. you have all the power in the world to destroy a child's life if you make a stupid choice. and i mean absolutely DESTROY it.

rule seven:
look for flaws and think 'is that something i want to live with for the rest of my life?'

rule eight:
forgiveness is good, but only in a small amount.
we are not god, we cannot go around forgiving everybody. yes, you should forgive everyone, but if they hurt you, if they cheat, if they push you too far, if they do not love you, you can't just forgive and forget. LEAVE THEM. do not run back to them or act like it never happened.

rule nine:
all healthy relationships are not perfect.
if yours is perfect, its not healthy. perfection is flawed.

rule ten:
don't be blind.